Have you ever been told to “Get over it?”
Perhaps it was said with a snide look or a rolling of the eyes and an attitude of giving up on you.
Or maybe it was offered by someone you actually turned to for support. They may have even said it lovingly as in, “Isn’t it time to move on?”
The first time I watched the movie, The Secret, I heard Jack Canfield encourage us to “Just get over” our wounds. He pointed out that the vast majority of us have experienced traumas: We’ve all been abused, neglected, abandoned or unloved in some way. And while, in theory, I agree with him, and with all those other well-intentioned (or not) people who have urged us to get over it, in practice I have discovered room for exploration.
You see, we all come into this world, into this life, at different levels of consciousness. This is not a judgment. Just as some people enter this life taller than others, some people incarnate at a higher level of consciousness than others. It’s safe to say that the great masters in human history incarnated at a very high level of consciousness.
And it’s also safe to say that, because you’re reading this, you entered this world with a high level of consciousness. You were aware of your world and your experiences much earlier in life than most people.
That is a great gift… but it also can be a great burden.
You see, when you enter this world highly conscious, perhaps even conscious within the womb, in most cases you’re in for a bit of a shock.
Our time in the womb and in the first days and months of life are often NOT the time of blissful peace and joy and love they are meant to be. (That’s a story for another day!)
Coming into this world with a high-level of consciousness you land in an environment of fear and struggle, scarcity and confusion. The energy you experience as you are coming into your physical form is completely out of alignment with what you know to be true.
That creates a powerful conflict within your system.
Something has to give: Either the world around you has to change to match what you know to be true or you have to change to come into alignment with your new environment.
When you observe that the world does not change that means that you have to. You have no choice… You MUST CHANGE because it becomes far too painful to remember your true nature of love and joy and abundance when you’re immersed in an environment of fear and suffering and lack.
So you do change. And that change creates a deep wound within you. It creates a scar at the very core of your being. Your genetic structure is transformed so that you can live within this broken world.
The traumas you experience that seem to be the cause of that wound actually CAN be healed. You CAN “Get Over” those experiences. But the wound itself, the choice that was made to leave behind your truth (because no other choice could have been made at the time) is not something a bandaid can heal. It is not something that can be cured with a snap of the fingers. And it is certainly not something that you can “just get over.”
When you hear from successful teachers who have made it big that you should be able to “just get over it” the reaction is often one of guilt and shame. “Why can’t I get over it? I must be doing something wrong. I’m a failure.”
You are NOT a failure…
… You are the hope of this world.
You, the Wounded Healer, carry within you the wisdom and the energy that can bring our broken world back into balance. And whether it takes you a day or a year or your entire life to find the place of balance within yourself… it doesn’t matter.
Because it is your process of remembering who you are, who we all are, that heals this world.
Remember, there is no finish line on this journey of life. There is no place to get to. You may look at someone up on a stage or at a book signing and think, “They’ve made it. They got over it.” Well maybe they have and maybe they haven’t. You just don’t know what their “real” life looks like.
But it really doesn’t matter. What others are doing or have done has no bearing on what you are doing and on what you will do. If you struggle your entire life to remember who you are and on your deathbed, you suddenly remember, and that light turns on again… all the struggle will have been worth it!
Here’s what you need to get over: Get over trying to get over it!
There is nothing to get over. There is nothing wrong with you!
The traumas you experienced and the wounds you carry are the result of the incongruence between what you know to be TRUE and what passes for truth in this physical reality.
You don’t need to get over incongruence. It is more about recognizing it and remembering the TRUTH you carry deep inside of you. It is there. You feel it. You hear it. You know it.
And that knowing is what makes this world so painful for so many mystics. That knowing is what causes us to struggle in this world.
But it is that knowing that can ultimately set you free and open the doorway to TRUE Abundance. If you are reading this, that doorway is in front of you… Right now!
You are the one we’ve been waiting for!
Leave a comment below and share your experience finding balance in this broken world.